IN PRAISE OF CIVILITY AND MANNERS

Reviving Civility in Modern Discourse

In our fast-paced, digital world, the art of civility and manners is slipping away, replaced too often by careless language and ad hominem attacks that overshadow meaningful dialogue. The rise of social media has made communication easier than ever, but it has paved the way for disrespect and misunderstanding. In our public discourse, as well as in our private lives, we should aspire to a standard of respect and formality reminiscent of more courteous times. These values can be fostered through formal education in English, etiquette, and critical thinking and by encouraging platforms to promote respectful exchange over sensationalism.

The Value of Civility in Public Discourse

Public discourse is meant to be a space where ideas are exchanged constructively, but it too often devolves into personal attacks and name-calling. Regardless of our differences, referring to others with pejorative nicknames undermines productive conversation and damages trust in the collective exchange of ideas. When we reduce people to labels or nicknames, we strip them of their individuality and the respect they deserve. In a truly civil society, disagreements are navigated thoughtfully, with the recognition that each person brings a unique perspective to the table.

Treating our discourse like a courtroom or council makes room for all voices and perspectives. This involves refraining from ad hominem attacks and encouraging constructive and empathetic language. Civility is a cornerstone of a healthy democracy, allowing for disagreement without discord and debate without disrespect.

The Importance of Formal English Education

Teaching formal English at all educational levels is one way to ensure that civility and manners have a foundation in society. Formal English encourages students to communicate clearly and thoughtfully, giving them the tools to articulate ideas precisely and respectfully. Beyond the structure of grammar and vocabulary, formal English also teaches a disciplined way of thinking. When students learn to speak and write formally, they develop habits of patience, reflection, and clarity—qualities that are essential for mature and thoughtful discourse.

Furthermore, a solid foundation in formal language helps students express themselves confidently and respectfully in public and private settings. It prepares them to enter the workforce and engage in a democratic society, where respectful, thoughtful communication is crucial. In a world of quick texts and hashtags, formal English classes allow students to slow down, think critically, and cultivate respect for the power of language.

The Role of Social Media in Promoting Civility

Social media has revolutionized communication, but it has also given rise to a culture of instant opinions and polarized interactions. Platforms often reward sensationalism over substance, creating echo chambers that foster division rather than understanding. To counteract these trends, social media should implement policies and practices that encourage civility. Features that promote thoughtful responses—such as prompts for users to read articles before commenting or reminders to review their language for respect—could create healthier online spaces.

Additionally, platforms should take a stronger stance against ad hominem arguments. Content that focuses on personal attacks rather than ideas could be de-emphasized in algorithms, creating more space for productive and respectful exchanges. Education campaigns on social media that teach users about logical fallacies and the importance of focusing on ideas rather than individuals would also encourage users to engage more thoughtfully.

Cultivating Manners and Respect in Our Society

To revive the values of courtesy and civility, we must emphasize manners in all areas of life—from schools and workplaces to digital spaces. Manners are more than formalities; they recognize each person’s inherent dignity and worth. Simple gestures, such as addressing people respectfully, actively listening to others, and practicing patience in conversation, contribute to an environment where everyone feels valued.

Respectful manners allow for diverse perspectives and foster unity even in disagreement in public debates and discussions. When we try to be respectful and mindful, we encourage others to respond kindly, creating a positive cycle of civility.

Conclusion: A Call to Higher Standards

As we navigate our modern world, remember that civility and manners are not relics of the past; they are timeless values that enrich our lives and strengthen our communities. By teaching formal English, managing social media to promote constructive discourse, and encouraging respect in public and private settings, we can build a culture that values thoughtful dialogue over divisiveness.

The quality of our discourse reflects the quality of our society. In striving for civility, we create a space where everyone is respected, ideas are freely exchanged, and disagreements lead to growth rather than conflict. It is a call to rise above pettiness, focus on ideas rather than individuals, and revive a discourse tradition that uplifts and unites us all.

William James Spriggs